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The Abuse of my Daughter and Grandchildren

Published  December 14,  2007 Fassit ©

Social Services have taken my Grandchildren into temporally care and they managed to do that through lies ~ altered written records to meet their own ends ~ half-truths ~ misguided judgements ~ in fact anything to get them out of my house because I'm a Druid so therefore an evil influence on my Grandchildren.

If you have read the article about the Local Councils treatment of my daughter and her three young children then you will know the beginning and you will see who is to blame as well as Social Services. Two organizations that should have joined forces to get this little family re-housed.

Three years ago when C.... (now 8 1/2 years old) started First School we were having problems with his behaviour ~ my Daughter had had these problems since C..... was three. The Headmistress of the Infant School asked us if we wanted her to contact Social Services to help with C.....'s problems. We said that would be ok we were prepared to accept any help they could give to help C.....

In came a Family Support Worker named T.... who used to visit C..... at the School at the end of the day. J...'s School was next to C.....'s and J... used to walk up from the School and wait for C.... to finish with T..... After a short while T.... asked if she could invite J... in so she didn't feel left out ~ again we didn't have any problems with that.

This arrangement continued until C.... left the first school and went up to J...'s school.

T.... then left the scene and a lady called T.... took over. This is when the problems started. On speaking with the Headmistress of the children's school one day she informed me that the Children's Social Worker had introduced herself to the School!! I was shocked! I informed her that they did not have a Social Worker and that all C.... had was a Support Worker! Nothing at all to do with J...!

T.... telephoned this house and I informed her that she was nothing to do with J... and was not their Social Worker and as Social Services had been invited by us to help with C....'s temper and also to help my daughter get re-housed and had done nothing for two years then we no longer wanted their help!

Well that was it as far as we were concerned. Social Services then got all their bits of lies together, raked up my Daughters past from when she was 14 years old (now 29 years old) and used it against us .

My daughters problems at 14 years of age were directed at me and a result of my having an affair with my boss that ended very badly. My Daughter was bullied at School because of my actions and took it out on me ~ no one else was involved so why use that against her. If she had killed someone at 14 and had a criminal record that would not have been allowed by Law to be used against her, in fact, it would have been destroyed!!

One of the main sentences in the information they presented to get the children on The C.... Protection List read 'J (the Baby) was smacked and J... said she was frightened to wake up in the morning in case J...(baby) was dead!!!!! This was sorted out by myself at future meetings and they admitted their error but of course they were on the list by them! The first part of the sentence 'J... was smacked'! that was a little tap on J...'s hand when he had his first baby tantrum at about six months old and we all joked and laughed about it with the then family support worker T.... The second part of the sentence 'J... said she was frightened to wake up in the morning in case J... was dead'!! The baby was a difficult baby at night and cried a lot. When J... was born he had the cord wrapped twice around his neck and they had trouble cutting it and he went very blue. When he cried he held his breath for long periods and would start to go blue. The health visitor told us to let him cry and sooner or later he would take a breath! We did prefer not to let him cry and what the health visitor told us to do frightened my Grandaughter. I did manage to get the health visitor to admit that at future meetings. So you will understand why after that sentence I was very reluctant to allow them to interview my Grandchildren without my daughter or I being present. This they used in the c... case but the fact is they never actually asked my Daughter if they could see the children alone and she is their mother with the final say ~ not me!

Since the C.... Protection Case in November of last year there has been a regular change in Social Workers, a fact that unsettled everyone in the family. Each time a new Social Worker took over my Daughter had to go through the whole history of everything that had happened over the years. This was very stressful. For nearly a year now I have been harassed and intimidated by Social Services in my own home. They have led people in authority to belief I am always aggressive! The only time I get aggressive is when I am defending my family especially when they are not there to defend themselves. They tried their utmost to destroy my daughters confidence as a mother and as a result of always being ridiculed and backed into a corner she felt she could no longer attend any meeting so I went to the meetings so they couldn't accuse us of not caring ~ the meetings were always disastrous. At the last meeting I attended I telephoned Social Services to make a complaint about the case worker and the Manager I spoke with asked me to give her another chance which I did and a few weeks later my Daughter was presented with Court C... Proceedings!

I'm not sure if we have had 3 or 4 Social Workers in the eleven months prior to the C... Case but they came into my house once every two weeks for about 30 minutes and managed to come to the conclusion that we were 'not functional' as a family! The children were neglected and suffering emotional abuse as my Daughter and I are supposed to fight and argue all the time! Nothing could be further from the truth there! They also said my Grandaughter and Mother were more like sisters than mother daughter! I actually think that could be a complement as sisters tell each other everything certainly secrets they would never tell their mother! That statement of theirs was also untrue. J... and her mother are very close. In an evening J... will go to her mothers room to watch TV and talk with her. They have a very close relationship. They also state the baby is not responsive to his mother and there is no bonding between them! Well I think all the photographs I have of them together disprove that accusation! Pictures speak louder than words and are admissible in a Court of Law. You may well ask why I have hundreds and hundreds of photographs! Well, that is because at one time I was a photographer. I have been photographing my Grandchildren since the day they were all born and I have a video tape of J...'s birth. C.... is a very hyper active child and needs a lot of one to one attention which obviously is not always possible. Well a meeting my Daughter went to last week they came up with 'C.... is dyslexic'! We have been telling them that for years but they did not listen to us and that was another reason why we had involved them. C....'s father is also dyslexic!

They accused me of abusing C....! Of locking him in his room! Of smacking him around the face and breaking his glasses (see the picture of his glasses). I was asked if I did Rituals in my garden involving the children! Anyone who knows about Druidry knows we work in Sacred Yew or Oak Groves!

The bedroom C.... sleeps in doesn't have any means of closing the door! so there is a small bit of blue string tied onto the handle. C.... takes asthma attacks at night and my Granddaughters dog liked to go into that room. When C.... has a really bad paddy he is asked to go upstairs which he always does under protest. He is asked to go upstairs because of the baby. We did not want the baby to start behaving that way and tried to separate them at these times. If C... would not stay in the room as a last resort the string would be tied but leaving a gap of 4-5 inches. At one time it was tied to keep the dog out but then we kept her in my Son's room and closed the door at night so it was no longer necessary to tie the door. The Local Council were asked to repair the door but failed to do it. In court Social Services led the magistrates to believe that C.... was tied in his room all the time instead of only limited occasions. My Doctor was aware of the door and obviously did not feel it was emotionally damaging to C.... otherwise he would had told me! Our Doctor has been the family Doctor for 30 years. He has seen this family through every situation you could imagine. I trust my Doctor more than anyone else in this world. I am completely honest with him and he with me.

I do not abuse my grandson! I object most strongly to their accusations. They have committed libel ~ slander and deformation of character against me! And committed perjury in a court of law and got away with it ~ SO FAR!!! I tell all my grandchildren of if they are naughty. I smack C.... in a Lawful way ~ on his bum! We are allowed by our British Law to chastise children within reason and this I have done. So should we just stand by and do nothing when a child is naughty? What will happen them? When the child is older they will be probably get into trouble and then the parent will be blamed for not teaching them right from wrong!

I am of the opinion that it is the Governments Job to educate but it is the Parents Job to teach everything to the child that they will need to live in this world and survive. So the Parents Job is far greater and of more importance than the Governments or Social Services! As a parent/grandparent I say I don't interfere with the governments education tactics and don't expect them to interfere with my parenting/ Grandparenting skills! Because nobody knows a child and their needs better than their immediate family! You cannot judge a families closeness or relationship with each other on a 30 minute visit twice a month! That is something that takes 24/7/52 to achieve. Please tell me the child that will act their normal self in front of a total stranger!

About a year and a half ago a neighbour who was my close friend offered to have C.... at weekends so everyone had a break and a little space! Well that went ok for a while until it started to cause problems between the siblings and C.... started to act like a stranger when he came home.

Also the neighbour was bathing C.... with her two very young grandchildren and my Daughter didn't approve of him being bathed or watched by others. The lady in question offered to walk the children to school to help me but after two weeks it got too much for her. Also when my Grandaughter was going to the house in the mornings she was not allowed in and had to wait on the doorstep! One morning when she got there her Brother was about to carry a large box upstairs and my Grandaughter went forward to help and was sent outside to wait. The lady in question was forming an unhealthy bond with my grandson. She was buying him loads of clothes and toys and kept them all in her house ~ two doors away!. When he went there at weekends he had to take our clothes off and put hers on!

One day she asked my Daughter how she felt about her fostering C....! my Daughter was flabbergasted! She knew nothing of her desire and said that was out of the question, her children were staying together. We then stopped my Grandson going around to her house and when she came round here the children were asked to stay out of the kitchen. It was about six months before she gave him all the things she had bought him and that was only after an incident when C.... needed new shoes. She said to me you can borrow the ones I bought him but I want them back! Which I thought was very odd. But we bought him new shoes and gave them back then she suddenly turned around and gave him the other items to keep.

It was after this that she made on two occasions phone calls to the Police saying she had heard C.... screaming and being abused! The first Police officer that came ended up going back to her house and as she said to me some time later 'had a go' at her! The second time she called the Police my severely disabled son ended up being attacked by them and CS Gas sprayed into his face and my Granddaughters and the Baby's! I was out with C.... when they arrived. This is the grounds for the care case! So if my Daughter had said yes to her fostering my Grandson would she have been so spiteful? What we also didn't know at the time was that she had attended 'Anger Management' classes and was on tranquilizers! She also believes herself to have been 'Isis' in a previous existence and sees herself on this earth to protect children in danger!!!!! My Grandson told me at a later date her and her daughter that lives there were always shouting and arguing in front of him.

I did forgive her for letting me down as a friend but we were always very wary as to her coming around here for the most silly reasons and drinking my coffee! When the Court papers were delivered here it turned out that she had been coming around here spying on us for Social Services!

She told them I had been in my garden drumming ~ chanting spells ~ and waking up and frightening all the neighbourhood children! My garden is completely enclosed by thick trees and bushes. My back garden is over 100 feet wide by about 60 feet. I have no children within hearing distance of my back garden. I drum as a form as meditation. The 'Spells' bit was a joke between us when. She had heard me drumming on the day of a dispute with children who live on the other side of the estate. She said to me the next day "where you chanting spells" I laughed and said of course! She forgot to tell Social Services it was a joke! She also forgot to say that the children were jumping out in front of cars and I had stopped and told them off when they did it to me. She also forgot to say that my Daughter had told the older boy off (about 14) because he had made sexual remarks at my Grandaughter and had also turned around to my Daughter on the green in front of the house and dropped his trousers in front of my Grandaughter as well! This is only one of the reasons why we don't let the children play out on this estate! I have a very large garden back and front. With the children's 12ft trampoline in the front and a swing and trees to climb in the back. What are gardens for if not to keep children playing happy and safe and within sight of family. But according to my neighbour and Social Services the children should have been out playing and running wild on this 'not so nice' estate! With a paedophile also living on the same estate!

Another accusation on their list was that my son hit my Grandson all the time when my Daughter and I were out! Well! that really is a joke! My son was knocked down by a car when my Daughter was pregnant with J.... My Son is now 25. He doesn't walk independently! He walks around the house holding onto grab rails fitted by the Council. If he reached out to hit my Grandson he would loose his balance and fall over. My Son has tremors in both hands ~ severe weakness in his legs ~ is very much over weight because of his immobility. He also suffered a stroke down one side and his speech is a lot slower than ours! I wonder with all the observation powers the Social Workers visiting my house had, that they managed to miss this! And I doubt very much that any child would be standing still if they thought someone was about to hit them!

Social Services want my daughter to undergo psychiatric assessment! I moved my Daughter and Grandchildren into my house 3 years ago to stop them getting cancer from a damp flat with asbestos in it! I have the photographs to prove the flat was damp but the Council still disputes it!

The point is for seven and a half years my Daughter looked after her children by herself without any male support and neither my Doctor nor any previous Health Visitors ever raised any concerns as to the welfare of her Children! Now all of a sudden She is not capable of meeting the needs of her children! They have lived here for 3 years! The Council and Social Services have been around for all that time. My Daughter got engaged to a Military Police Officer last new years eve and by next April ~ just a few months away ~ he is leaving the army and has enough capital to buy their own house! And the point here is that her Fiancé is Irish and they would have been moving there to start a new life and Social Services did not like that! So what they have done is totally ruined my grandchildren's and daughters future ~ emotionally scarred my grandchildren ~ and used a load of lies to get what they wanted!!

Social Services never had any concerns about my Grandaughter or the Baby. They were only on the list because of C..... All their concerns were for C... and built on the lies of a lady who couldn't foster him! By removing the other two children they have driven a wedge between them because they were not here and didn't hear the discourse between the children! Someone blamed someone and will hold that against them for the rest of their lives. My 10 1/2 year old Grandaughter, normally a very happy and quiet little girl barracked herself in the kitchen pleading and screaming for an hour to stay with her mummy. The Baby sat in a car ~ outside the neighbours house who had caused all this damage ~ I never heard a baby scream so much with fear and he has not been the same since! C.... stood in the house at one time just playing with a Yoyo that my Foster Daughter had bought him that day. C.... was completely unaware of what was happening and showed little emotion except as he was going outside when he hugged me and said that he didn't want to leave me. My Grandaughter had her mobile phone with her and that was the only thing that got her through the weekend. The fact that she could contact her mother. On the Monday the foster mother found the phone ~ read all my Grandaughter and her Mothers text messages and gave the phone to Social Services. A direct infringement of my Granddaughter's rights and privacy as at 10 years old she has the right to contact her family and as there was never any reason as to J....'s safety there was no reason to withhold what the Law states she has a right to ~ contact!!. My Grandaughter said to her mummy the other day 'they will tell you I'm happy mummy but I'm not'! She keeps asking when is she coming home! My little grandson 2 1/2 is a different child to what he was five weeks ago. He doesn't look like those photographs! He has brown shadows under his eyes ~ he looks to have lost weight ~ he has gone from a very affection little boy who loved to be cuddled and hugged and return the same to a very withdrawn little boy and the sadness and unsure in his eyes will just break your heart! My Grandaughter told me they are not giving him is red SMA milk at night which we gave him as a food supplement because he just eats finger food. The night they took him he was unwell and the Magistrates knew that! He had had inoculations on the Tuesday and they took them on the Friday.

They used that in court the fact we had delayed his inoculations and just had them done because of the court case! We delayed inoculations because he is a very bright little boy and we were frightened of any brain damage all these mixture of immunizations might cause. In the end they kept on so much about them we gave in and had them done. We didn't know about the Court C... Case until 5pm on the Monday and his inoculations were on the Tuesday morning so I guess that proves they were booked in advance! We had 3 days to find a Solicitor to represent My Daughter on the Friday! The Barrister wanted the case deferred so we could make statements etc and to build a case but Social Services said no! We were at the Court from 9.15 in the morning until after 7pm that night and it must have been nearly 9pm before they took the children! How cruel was that. On the Monday of that week my Grandaughter was unwell. When the papers were delivered my Daughter left them on the kitchen table and my Grandaughter read everything ~ she is a very fluent reader ~ she read everything the neighbour had said to Social Services and refused to leave the house and my Daughter all week in case someone tried to snatch her from school. Even now Social Services are lying about the children. They are trying to buy their affections by offering them holidays and school trips that we would not have been able to afford for them! But it won't work because given the choice of a holiday or coming home we all know there would be no competition ~ the children want to be here!

Social Services have court appearances booked to the middle of next year!!!!If the Local Council Re-housed my Daughter she would be able to contest the interim care order on the 17th of this month but it is my belief that Social Services and the Local Council are working together NOT to re-house my Daughter because it is not their intention to return the Children to the family. Please look at the updates to the Waverely Blog!

Another family they used Statements from were C....'s Fathers family. A family with a history of violence and criminal records. My Daughter and B.. split because he was very violent towards her and J... and C.... He has no Parental access as he has never financially supported her and C..... and his name is not even on the Birth Certificate!! So having discussed Private family business with outsiders I do believe the Data Protection Act has been broken! He told Social Services that he had never hit my Daughter and they believed him! Even though it is down on Police records at least four times ~ bruising to my Daughter is in her Doctors Records after attacks by b.. as our Doctor is also his doctor!

He received Police cautions in the past for beating up my Daughter and at one time was not allowed within a certain distance of this estate! His mother told Social Services that I had recently gone into the shop where she works and harassed her! I very seldom go into our local town ~ let alone the other end of town. The last time I went into her shop was last year when I took mine and her Grandson to visit her. I took him on 3 occasions and each time she promised to come up at the weekend and take him out! She never ever turned up ~ just kept letting him down! Can you believe that Social Services could believe people like that who can blatantly lie and the lies can be so easily disproved but we didn't know all this in time to give them the proof and they took advantage of that. had we had the time they know they would have never got my Grandchildren.

What really annoys is that I looked after my Grandchildren because I love them and I wanted them to be safe and well and happy but the people fostering them ~ well all my grandchildren mean to them is the means to pay their mortgage! I read on an Internet Site that it costs you Tax Payers £2500.00 per child per week to keep them in care!! It would have been cheaper for the Local Council to have built a house for them!

As for saying my daughter and I fight and argue all the time ~ well that is a lie. As for leading the Magistrates to believe that Social Services have always been involved with MY children ~ well that is a lie! Social Services were not involved with my Daughter before our problems at 14 years of age! Any speech therapy or child psychologist before that date was organized by my health visitor or Doctor andnothing at all to do with Social Services! They stressed my other Children being on the C.... Protection Register! That was when only because they used to get between my Daughter and myself and they were literary on their for less than a few months! Social Services looked after my Daughter so well that she ran off and no one knew where she was! I walked around the City where she was staying with her photograph approaching homeless people and in and out shops asking if anyone had seen her. Well, word got back to her and she rang me that evening. I had achieved what Social Services and the Police had not! She had been sleeping rough in Car Parks! My 14 year old daughter who they were supposed to be looking after. Well would I have cared if there had been no bond between us ~ I doubt that very much. They also led the Magistrates to believe that my Son was again under Social Services but forgot to mention that that was after his accident because he had severe brain damage.

After my Daughter spending that short time in care I went through a 3 day trial at the Old Bailey of which I was exonerated ~ I got a very rare cancer ~ my husband had a very severe stroke of which he has made a poor recovery ~ my son was knocked over and spent a year and a half in hospitals ~ during which time my Grandaughter was born. That is why she is so precious to us. She was the light at the end of the tunnel.

The night my son got knocked over ~ he was 14 ~ My Daughter never left my side. A friend came and took my husband to his mothers where he remained for eight weeks. My Daughter who was pregnant with my Grandaughter stayed with me at the Atkinson Morley Hospital from December 20th 1996 for eight weeks. She would not leave me and her Brother. She went home when they moved my Son to a Local Hospital. I stayed in the hospital looking after my Son 24/7. The only thing I couldn't do was his medication. He was vegetable at that stage. In incontinence pads and fed through his stomach. He didn't say anything or know we were there until April! My Daughter then went home to look after her father. Heavily pregnant she walked the 2 miles to our Local Station every day ~ took a train to G...... ~ rang me at the hospital and by the time I got to her she was half way there. My Grandaughter was born on the 2nd May in that same hospital a week after my Son was transferred to a Childrens Rehabilitation Hospital where he had a social worker to get all the disabled benefits he was entitled to.

Do they not know that tragedy of this type in a family brings a closeness and a bond between people! You see they knew 1% of us but not the other 99%!

Well today 8th December I received the following letter threatening me with Court Action if I don't remove this from my website!

This is my and my families story ~ no names have been mentioned of the Social Services people involved or the liars whose words they took as gospel. If they don't like the truth that is not my fault but why should they feel threatened by a 59 year old disabled lady! Do they want to do the same to me as they have done to the Grandparents of a 15 year old boy in Nottingham! The Grandfather in his 70's I think is in Jail for having contact with his grandson who went to them for help and the Grandmother in her late 60's has a suspended jail sentence!

Everything on here is the TRUTH! Anyone who knows me knows I don't tolerate lies. I don't see the need for them. My life was ruined by a Man's lies when my Daughter was 14 and it took many years to get over that. Those old wounds have all been opened this last year by Social Services and my life has been ruined once again by lies! I will not submit to intimidation and lies.

Now people can see all the half truths ~ lies and misconceptions and untrue evidence that was given to magistrates. Well I would like to thank the many many people for all your help and support. There are probably things I have forgotten to put here but I have tried to remember. Sorry about the poor quality reproduction. This Private and Confidential letter was delivered without and envelope by hand and an hour later the original arrived by post ~ in an envelope :) It is obviously not so private that a stranger could read it before myself so I see no objection to it being on my website!!

The other letter is an open letter my Doctor wrote to the Court which they chose to ignore! The 3rd picture is my Grandsons Glasses. We were also accused of deliberately failing to get my Grandson new glasses! As if anyone would deliberately try to damage a child's sight but that is how they made it sound to the Magistrates. You can see how many times I repaired his glasses for him.

I actually disagree with this letter as I am no longer involved with any proceedings concerning My Grandchildren. I am merely a Taxi for my daughter to get to Courts, meetings and visiting the children.

Social Services have always been aware of my Web Site!! So why only a few days before the next Court session do they take this action! It is my belief that if I don't conform to their wishes they will try to use this against My Daughter. So what should I do? Well I'm not only prepared to fight for my Grandchildren here ~ I am prepared to take a stand for all Grandparents that they have done this to!

Only a God has the right to take children from their family ~ No mortal being should be allowed that power.

All they have against my family is Circumstantial evidence! No proof of physical violence directed at the children. And the decoration of my house! It isn't posh enough! Since when did material possessions make a home? Also that we are dysfunctional as a family! I disagree with that as this house is run around disabled people which depends on regularity to keep them alive! I have to have a routine and as a family we do more together than an average family would do.

Why would they want to shut me up ~ I obviously pose a threat to them! Why do they work behind closed doors? ~ because they are ashamed of what they are doing!

What sells Newspapers most in this Country! Abuse of Children by a Person or Social Services! Abuse of the Elderly or Disabled!! I fall into the last category! I am both elderly and disabled!

Beloved Mother and Grandmother