I did not accompany my wife on the
first permitted contact with the children as I felt that I could not trust my
own reactions, a predominant aspect of which was anger at the predicament as
well as grief at the impending loss.
It is difficult to assess one" s own reactions. I wanted to see them, of course,
but suppose I was feeling like another victim I know of, a man whose grand
daughter they had impounded, He said that he could not bear the thought of
seeing the child again as it was upsetting the child and upsetting him.
I could well understand his attitude. At the same time as being moved by the
desire to see the children, there is the terrible anguish deriving from the
realization that this could be the last but one time that we should be seeing
them, against which those responsible for such inhumane policies must insulate
themselves, either by delegating the dirty work to underlings instructed to
execute such orders, or by psychological indoctrination.
This other victim of the system told me that in the line of his work as an
ambulance man and paramedic he would probably be the first person to attend to
her if she fell ill and he happened to be called out. This is another indication
of the absurdity of the situation in which children are removed from their
natural homes at the whim of some so called Social Workers, most of whom who
have just come off a course and trying to prove themselves, by satisfying the
obvious direction from the higher echelons and their political masters. Someone
in the know told me that they have an inner "elite" schooled to take "hard
decisions".
There was also the fact that this time we were not seeing them in natural
outdoor conditions, which I suppose mitigated to some extent against the
restrictive nature of the permitted contacts.. This time we were seeing them in
a virtual prison camp scenario, incarcerated for a crime that neither the
children nor we have committed, a punishment that none of us deserve.
Apart from the fact that filial attachments are normally very deep seated,
deriving as they do from motivation with a long evolutionary history - even the
dinosaurs, more than sixty five million years ago apparently exhibited this
powerful drive - it should be noted that our feeling for our grand children are
naturally strong as are theirs towards us, because we virtually brought them up
from infancy with all that this entailed, as well as having to cope with their
parents who were then afflicted by the drug problem.
It should be noted that the department officials actually criticized us for
being too considerate of the children, as if that were a fault, saying that "we
had no boundaries" I thought they were talking about cricket for a moment.
They obviously were implying that we allowed them to do what they wanted. If
that had been the case they could not possibly have been in the excellent
condition that they were, and as we have a medical report to corroborate.
Of course by that time they had
decided to go for the children and were out discredit us by any and every means.
The possible reason for this change of attitude from their previously expressed
satisfaction (letters available) could be that they had received some
misinformation.
They can make the description fit
their requirements, of course. For instance if a child is not corrected sternly
enough, that could be described as negligence or 'lacking boundaries' to quote
their phrase, whereas if the child is reprimanded too severely that could be
excessive domination. I know an example where the person concerned was accused
of this. This is an either/or situation.
Those who play the game and also make the rules win in both cases. This
unscrupulous tactic is described as 'rubbishing. One would think that those who
operate what is euphemistically described as a service would at least be
honorable, if not kind and considerate. But then their terms of engagement are
decided by their superiors in the hierarchy who are answerable to the
politicians who are themselves caught up into the machine which for reasons of
their own political survival go along with the machinery that has been set up
One Social Worker more observant than most actually said as much - the machinery
has been put into motion. In other words they cannot stop even if they want to
do so. My solicitor in a rare moment of daring to imply criticism of the all-
powerful Service said something similar - once they engage they don't know how
to disengage.
Unfortunately it is the families and children who suffer the consequences, whose
lives are ruined by an organization that supposedly functions to" protect and
help them. In many cases those who exercise this power are getting away with
murder, in some case literally!
The only way to stop this evil is four their to be a public enquiry now and to
demand die rescinding of the ill conceived Child Protection Act and its
replacement by an law that safeguards the child within the natural family where
it properly belongs.
My wife returned from her visit to see the children in a very distraught state
which confirmed my decision. Perhaps I can bring myself to sustain the next
visit. There is the added objection to being used again in accordance with their
cynical manipulation of people - something after the style of the concentration
camp executioners who forced people to dig their own graves.
The joyous response of the children to seeing my wife was heartbreaking and
grievous as it was heartening. They were overjoyed at seeing her. It was heart
breaking and heart rending. Then they realized that I was not there.
They said ' Where's granddad Jack?
Everywhere that my wife moved with the children she w as followed by the
attendant - or jailor, depending upon how one regards the situation - a
degrading experience.
During the 'prison visit' the eldest girl, Paige began arguing with Nicole, one
of the twins who had taken a toy with which Paige had been playing. My wife said
- don V Argue with your little sister. She is only a little girl. You are a big
girl now, to which Paige said sadly '/ am a little girl as well.' I know you are
said my wife taking her on her knee, to comfort her.
Later all the children were crying that they wanted to come home by which they
meant to our house. My wife uttered – ‘this is madness’ when the children were
crying and saying they wanted to come home, meaning our house. ‘Why can V we
come home? Little Nicole, the twin, brokenly sobbed 'I love you'.
When my wife returned home she
remained slumped in the car, breaking down into tears, very distressed. I
persuaded and helped her out of the car. I thought how dejected she appeared and
what an ageing effect this must be having on both of us, bearing in mind our
life-long commitment to cultivating our bodily condition which has helped us
resist the ravages of ageing, and now to be subjected to this immense stress,
not to mention the humiliation at what some would consider to be an advanced
age.
The following morning she was again crying, saying that she could not stop
thinking about the Social Worker, Jane Holmes when she dragged Paige out of our
house, kicking and screaming. Another factor that disturbs us is that they do
not look any where nears as well as when they lived with us. This may readily be
seen on the comparison photographs that we have.
I once read that an assessment of the degree of civilization of a people could
be indicated to a large extent by the manner in which they treated the older
members of their community. I also understood that one of the primary concerns
of the department described as Social Service was to ensure the well -being of
the senior citizens. Considered on either any of these counts the present
administration of this country is performing very badly.
The thought occurred to me that perhaps it is for that very reason - that we
have kept ourselves in such good condition that the local administration choose
to treat us in so cavalier a manner. But they surely cannot have it both ways.
Either we are in good enough condition to take care of the children, or we are
not fit enough to be subjected to the continued mental torture of
Having our grandchildren permanently abducted, a torment that will never go
away, any more than will the grief of losing our beloved son as a result of the
same kind of treatment Personally I do not believe that anyone in a supposedly
civilized society should be deliberately caused to suffer such anguish.
If we accept the statement by Lord Simon that well -being is the true purpose of
life, and I base my life style program on that assumption, the proper purpose of
Government, or more correctly expressed with regard to an alleged democracy,
social administration, should be to ensure and maximize that state of well
-being for its members. By no stretch of the imagination can it be assumed that
the present course of events adheres to that requirement.
They take away children from members of their own people, by what amounts to
legalized kidnapping, some of whom in past years have been snipped out of the
country like felons to dispose of the problem which their own actions and
ineptitude have created, whilst at the same time settling a large influx of
people from other parts of the world into this country, a problem again
resulting from their own folly of interfering in other people’s affairs in the
first place, is an absurdity.
In fact the entire situation is beyond belief.
Jack and June Everett
