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No contact with my Children for 9 years?

 Published July 27, 2006

This is my story, I have never had a social worker, when I went to ask for one they said I never needed one. They said I was bright and intelligent. The court always said I was a good mother so How come I have not seen or had any contact with my natural Children for 9 years.

 

The Morning I was in court I was alone as new rules had taken place about legal aid which I did not know until the morning I was in court when I was told my solicitor was not coming because my funding had been withdrawn.

 

It was the main hearing in the case and no one told me to ask for an adjournment which I should have done.

 

When I walked into the court room I was alone with 3 men who were already trying to bully and intimidate me particularly The court welfare officer Swift who had already written two reports about me which were totally untrue, and as I had refused to see him at all he had just written what he wanted.

 

I had a copy of the childrens act I was already running an agency for single parents and done a lot of campaigning. I was a single parent not out of choice but if I had my time again I would choose to be a single parent.

 

Anyway the Judge walked into the court room he had never seen me before. He knew nothing about my children or I, as soon as he sat down he asked me to go to the stand which I did. He then proceeded to say to me you are bitter women. I was so astounded I replied this is supposed to be a family civil court and any male judge who speaks to any women like that should not be sitting there at all. I will not allow you to speak to me like that.  Apart from falling of his chair he made an order there and then I should never see or have any contact with my natural children ever again and never listened to any further evidence.

 

As he got up to leave he turned and said no grounds for appeal.

 

After many years of going from office to office and court to court. As I could not get before a Judge I could not ask for an appeal hearing.

 

I was out of my mind with worry about my children, they were with a man who had abused me for many years, I had been through a whole criminal thing with him . But I was told the criminal court does not speak to the civil court. Eventually I got a hearing before Justice Butler-Sloss in the London Appeal Court who's first words on entering the court were she could not believe the children were with this man, as we did not have all the documentation the hearing was adjourned to another morning. The unscrupulous Judge must have got wind of this because on the next hearing I was before 3 male judges who said he was handling the case, he had asked that the case be kept to him as he knew what he did was wrong. They would not let me speak I still had no legal aid and no private funds at the time to instruct a solicitor privately.

 

I have not seen or had any contact whatsoever for almost 10 years. I have now been very happily divorced for almost 17 years and will never live with or trust another man again.

 

I go out with men I have fun but I have my own house and my own Business. I campaign for women and children and I have now put together a sheet to help women & Children anyone can email me on this address. I have written a whole book about the case and made videos for my children which I encourage other women to do so their children know the truth.

 

My children have been brought up on a run down council estate in a run down house. I live in a lovely house and spend much of my time abroad.

 

I love my children very much and there is not one day I have not wanted to be with them.

 

I am just in the process of suing the court for £50,000for each year they have denied me my children. No amount of money will ever make up for destroying my childrens and my life. I have constantly asked about my childrens Education which I have always been interested In and which I have also been denied. Why? I do not suffer any mental Health problem; I do not drink or do drugs and never have.

 

Remember they are your children (You have rights) never give-up fighting for them

Fiona2@Cytanet.com.cy