Separation and Loss to utter Betrayal
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utter Betrayal I have been utterly amazed at the way we have been treated as citizens of this country when I think of the things that the Social Services have been able to do and get away with. Two stories on this site tell you some of what has happened already [father, teacher/whenever I think of social workers] to us and some of the pain, but no-one tells you how the pain will continue. It is never ending. Since the children left, we have missed them both so much, even though one of them was and had to be placed in care. Both of us have suffered a nervous breakdown, my wife has been prescribed tranquillisers and we have both contemplated suicide for we cannot live properly as fully functioning adults under the pressure being placed on us by the SS. I have lost my income, going from 31k to £6 per hour, a leveller in its own right, we have had to sell the house and go rented and now find ourselves 21000 in debt and unable to pay via normal means. Little did we realise what would happen next after our son was ripped from us. We have asked ourselves several times how far down we have to go before normality begins to come back to our lives and only recently have nearly broken up due to the stress load. Such is the pain that continues to this day. We have learnt some real lessons though, along the way. The first is that for all those parents out there struggling with children who find behaving appropriately difficult or nigh on impossible, the social services is NOT THE PLACE TO GO for help. This is what they will do to you. Firstly they will reassure you they ‘are your friend’ in all these things and they are ‘there to help’ when experience now tells me they have a different agenda. You see, their agenda is to gather as much information on you as they can for a suitable care proceeding to take place where your children will be ripped from your side, whether you like it or not. They care not for your pain or distress, are prepared to say to your partner ‘leave your partner and bring up your child/ren on your own and you may be able to have care of the child/ren’ and try everything they can to break you up, believing it is their moral duty to split you up. They have no morals, believe not in the sanctity of marriage and will do their utmost to see you suffer. If that is friendship and trust, then you can keep it. Then they will come into your home armed with pen and paper. Watch out for this one because the least little thing you say will ‘be used in evidence against you’ as the saying goes. These are people who are trained to do everything to get their own way in these matters. Your thoughts and especially words will be used again and again. I was asked to make a snap description of the one child in our adoption that was causing the trouble. I was incredibly stressed beyond rational belief and happened to say that she was ‘pure evil’ in my description. This was used, along with my Christian faith, to label us both as radical fundamentalists, you know the sort who strap bombs to themselves and blow up buses etc. Then there is the feeling that what ever you say, you feel as if you are not being listened to. They say they are your friend, but tell you things must happen on their terms. Friends do not do things like that. They give and they take. They allow for outbursts and feel for you in your time of need. Various people I have spoken to in similar cases of adoption have broken marriages and a breakdown in the family as a direct result of this thing called adoption. I am now going on record as saying I adopted two children, but completely disagree with the idea and notion of adoption in every single way nowadays. I used to think ‘free the child/baby but now, I would sooner someone have an abortion if they are not ready to be a parent, for that is the single most difficult ‘job’ in the entire world and those that are successful at it, you have my blessing and admiration. You see, my son, my adopted son, was told by the SS that his birth father was the cause, being a sex offender. You know, the more stories I see on this site, the more I want to go to see the father, for I have his address still, and say to him what I feel for I now believe that the people who took his son away from him, being social workers themselves, had an agenda for filling spaces for adoption, forced adoption at any cost. I do not believe that my son’s birth father is a schedule 1 offender any more, see the travesty that is the injustice being perpetrated on all of us and despair. I cannot work any longer as a teacher. My career is over due to lies, lies and damned lies. And you know, it is not just us who have had to suffer because of these people who say they are your friends. Within six weeks of being ripped from our side, our son, James, had tried to commit suicide three times, had been allowed to become sexually involved with a boy his own age in care and nothing was done to separate them into different homes. The social workers – remember they are your friends – took particular delight in telling us so that we should react inappropriately. We saw it coming and made no response but that two children were experimenting as youngsters do. It was not the real feelings being shown but we knew by then what they were up to and saw it coming. So, beware. Beware of social workers in any guise. They are not your friends. They are not there to help. They are not there to offer you respite. They are simply there to betray your trust in every conceivable way. Do not work with them any longer. Boycott their offices, boycott them all and try to find another way forward in helping your children – and if you are thinking I am dribbling on, try reading a few of these stories and especially the poetry. If you can do that and not feel the pain, you have a swinging brick for a heart my friend. J.S. Doncaster Published by Fassit UK© Back |
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