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Social Services took my Angels and my Relationship

Heartbreaking Abuse of Power  
Social Services took my Angels and split a loving relationship

Dec 2011

I had social services involved in my life since my oldest son was 5 years old. It was because my son behaviour at school was far from good. So social services got involved as the school called them to talk about my son behaviour and how he had become to uncontrollable to be in the class room. So it was agreed between the school and social services to take my son out of the class and put him in a room by himself and teach him.

My son was given a support worker and was not to mix with the over children. This went on for a couple of mouths and then a meeting took place which I did not get told about and at the meeting to was agreed to place my son on to a part time table starting school at 9.30 till 11am everyday and they would review it again in 3 mouths to see if my sons would be put back in to his class.

My son was not aloud out at play times he did not get to make mothers cards Easter cards or have any part in the Christmas stuff or go to the school disco unless I agreed to stay at the disco to watch my son. I told the school I was not going to do that and my son just wont go as it not rite to have me there as it is meant to be the children time to have fun. My son would not be put under the spotlight by having his mother standing over him and watching his every move. It would of gave the over children reason to bully my son because he had to have mummy holding his hand.

My son was being punished enough with out having that on top. My son was then banned as the naughty little boy, he was told by different teachers he was a bad boy, horrible and a nasty boy and he was not to be round no over children at any time because they was not safe round my son because my son kicked off smashing the class room up and that where he was told he was a selfish little boy who wont never have any friends because of the way he was. I ask for a statement to be done on my son because there was something making him the way he was.

I also ask to have him tested with his reading and spelling because I was sure he could not read but it was not till nearly 2 years later that they did test and it was another 4 mouths later that social services said that he needs a statement done on him. It was 2 half years later my son finally had a reason for the way he was. It was because mainstream school was to much for him to deal with and he needs to go in to a unit where he would get one 2 one support and a key worker that was trained to deal with children like my son. SEP 2007 my son finally got put in unit and he total changed and clamed rite down and became a lot happier but he still said he was the horrible nasty boy. I tried so hard to get through to him that he was not that boy at all and he never was.

He did not believe me and in August 2007 my son got in with wrong boys and started to get in trouble and turn against me not listening to anything I said. Then smashed his room up and everything in it and then he become out of control and putting him self in harms way and danger. I rang social services to ask for there help with my son. The social worker came out to talk with me about the best things and way we could deal with my son behaviour. It was 3 days later social worker turned up at 5.45pm and gave me 2 things I had to choice from 1 GIVE MY SON UP IN TEMPARY FOSTER CARE OR 2 DONT GET NO HELP AT ALL? Social worker gave me till 2pm the next day to get my answer.

I rang social services at 9am and ask social worker to come out to see me and get my answer. Social worker turned up at 10 am and I ask her how long my son would be in foster care before he come back and she told me I would get my son back on the 12th October 2009. So I made the choice to keep my son safe and put him in foster care. Social worker left to get paper work for me and got back at 1pm with 2 police women and that was when social worker told me to get legal advice because I being taken to court for I.C.O order to be made. THAT WAS THE BIGGEST MISTAKE I EVER MADE AND I WAS TRAPPED HAD NO WAY TO UNDO WHAT I DONE.

I was totally open with everyone got involved in my case. I told them all I had a drug problem and my drug took was speed. That was the wrong thing to do as it got used to build a stronger case for the I.C.O. I only had 2 children when it all started with the courts. Then had 2 more boys. That when had to fight for my 4 children. It was on the 28th march 2011 my 4 babies got taken from me with judge telling me I have no longer got any rites over my children and not even when they turn 18 will I be good enough to be call a mother she told me I was no good and should never of been given the chance to be a mother. On that day I lost my 11 year old girl my 9 year old boy my3 year old boy and my 18mth old boy my life was no longer wrote living as I all got made to walk away from my 7 year relationship because he put in to be sole carer for the children and if he was to have a good chance I had to leave him.

I done this as I wanted my ex to have every chance possible to get sole care of children. At 5.10 Friday 28th march 2011 I lost everything and I walked back to my house as it was left down to me to tell my girl and 2 boys not aloud to stay with mummy no more. My ex was going to do this but social worker and judge said I coursed it so I have to faces the ones I let down as there mother. I told them and had to stay in house till social services picked them up at 6pm and that was worst thing a mother can be made to do listen to her babies crying there little hearts out begging me not to let them go. That when my 3 year old ask me is it because mummy don’t love us no more and don’t want be mummy to us now and you sending us away. That killed me inside and I shut off to life and started taking speed everyday all day. Doctor told me if didn’t stop way living I will with out a doubt be dead by my 31st birthday which I wont bothered with then end may I found out pregnant and I was 22weeks gone.

My girl was born on 31st July 2011 5 weeks early and I was in court on Tuesday 2nd August fighting E.C.O which I won and my girl is still in my care and twice social services have try taking her and fault both time. I fighting all the way for her to stay with me because my girl saved me and gave me my life back. I clean from speed since may and I am now taking my case up to higher court as appealing my over case because social services went out to get me and nothing I did made different.. Now trying to do it again with my baby. I been set up to fall and social services don’t think I deserve a 2nd chance. Well there is my story and how my life got destroyed by social services.

I HOPE AND WANT MY STORY TO HELP JUST 1 FAMILY GOING THROUGHT THE PAIN AND HELL I HAVE THEN AT LESS M Y PAIN HAS SAVED A FAMILY. ALSO WANT PEOPLE TO SEE THAT THERE IS ALWAYS HOPE AS YOU WILL SEE FROM MY STORY MY BABY WAS IS MY HOPE. SO PLEASE DONT GIVE UP STAND GROUND FIGHT AND KEEP FIGHTING.

I have left my name and where to contact me with Fassit if there's anyone who wishes to talk about their case I will be only to glad to listen and help where I can. Thank you.

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